They say at some point in life, usually at the middle age, we will encounter the so-called mid-life crisis, the stage in which we suddenly come to realize that our time is running out and we might not be able to accomplish the major goal in life that we have been dreaming for.
In such a circumstance, the person might perform some drastic actions such as quitting the current career, getting divorced or even committing suicide.
However, some theories counter that mid-life crisis could be just a myth. While other theories suggest that crises actually occur in many steps of our life especially when we faces big changes, not just at the middle age.
In my experience, I did encounter the mid-life crisis upon reaching the age of 40. It suddenly occurred to me that everything I have been doing and being proud about became non-sense and uninspiring. I was a financial and economics writer before that time and I quit writing almost entirely. It took me several years to search for new interests and that was a very tough time for me mentally. I would say it was the worst time of my entire life. I was unhappy.
I was not sure how I went through the crisis, but currently I became a woodworker instead. I could not imagine how my life would turn out if I could not find new interest at that time to ignite my spirit again. It was a leap of faith.
I have to admit that life is not as fulfilling as it used to be before my forty. But it is at least manageable. Perhaps I get accustomed to it or the midlife crisis forced me to change some of my habits in order to go on with life.
Everyone has some flaws in his personality. When we were young, we developed some defense mechanism to circumvent our weaknesses. For example, somebody developed a loner personality to avoid human conflicts. Others developed easy-going personality to escape troubles. My theory is that mid-life crisis occurs because at one point our defense mechanism no longer works. We suffer as a result.
In order to overcome the midlife crisis, everyone has to change his own attitudes as well as personalities in some way so that we can cope with the world again without those defense mechanisms that we have been using to fool ourselves all along. This could mean abandoning some of our firm beliefs, getting rid of some biases, or even changing our personalities entirely. I don’t know exactly what you have to do, because everyone’s problem is not the same. It usually takes a lot courage to do so and therefore it is not an easy task.
So, if you happen to experience something like this at around 40. That’s all my advice to you.